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Title: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: olcowhand on May 30, 2019, 07:10:07 PM
FF Friends,
After all the replies and following I've done here, this is my first post.
I lost my Mom yesterday morning, and I just want to proclaim (and celebrate) in some forum- what a blessing she has been to my life, and the lives of many.
Obviously with the grief and sadness, I'm feeling a little guilty. Unlike many in this situation, we've been seeing this coming for a while, and there really isn't anything that's been left unsaid. But I can't help but wish I or one of us could have been there with her.
She lived in an assisted care facility, and asked the attendant for some water at about 3:00 am yesterday, and by the time he returned- she had passed. I (and our family) believes, so I recognize that she flew into loving arms, but I just wish I could have told her I love her one more time....
Not sure what I'm looking for by posting this, but I'll just let it fly and allow the wisdom and the passion you all have happen (yes, I'm weeping as I type. Real men don 't cry, but Olcowhands do....).
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: lxskllr on May 30, 2019, 07:44:13 PM
Condolences OCH. It's never easy, even when it's expected on some level. Sounds like she had a good death, and that's about the best gift anyone could get. All the best for strength going forward.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: dgdrls on May 30, 2019, 08:30:38 PM

Your post speaks volumes.
My condolences on the passing of your Mom,

D
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: doc henderson on May 30, 2019, 08:40:22 PM
Real men of course cry, it just has to be for something that rises to that level.  does not matter how old they or we are, it is still a loss and sad for us.  Sounds like it was peaceful. she was not in pain, and you were all as prepared as anyone can be.  God bless you and your family.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: sawguy21 on May 30, 2019, 08:41:02 PM
Life has to come to an end but it is never easy to let go. She was loved and cherished, we can't ask for more than that. All the best, remember and smile at the memories of the good times.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: WDH on May 30, 2019, 08:44:00 PM
Losing your Mom changes you.  Your post made me think of my long parted Mom, and that made me smile.  I heart goes out to you and your family.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: Magicman on May 30, 2019, 08:54:29 PM
Loosing your Mom creates a void that can never be refilled.  Yes, everyone wants that one last time together and we get it, but sadly, we don't know when that last time is.  I offer my sincerest condolences to you and your family during this time of both grief and celebration.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: thecfarm on May 30, 2019, 09:08:54 PM
That is always hard. I think of my Mother just about every day.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: Chuck White on May 30, 2019, 09:25:15 PM
Losing your Mom really does leave a huge void in your heart and mind!

Lost my Mom back in '13 and every once in a while, through the course of the day I'll stop what I'm doing and just reflect for a couple of minutes on some of the good times we shared!

As has been said, remember the good times, those memories are priceless!

My condolences to you and the rest of the family!
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: Southside on May 30, 2019, 09:25:35 PM
I am sorry to hear of her passing. As others said, real men do cry, and they cherish the good memories. I hope you find peace in this time. 
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: tule peak timber on May 30, 2019, 09:32:27 PM
Our condolences from out west. Rob
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: Bill Gaiche on May 30, 2019, 10:16:36 PM
Sorry for your loss. We are never ready for such a day but just remember all those days before. bg
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: Pine Ridge on May 30, 2019, 10:56:35 PM
You will be in my prayers tonight, so sorry for the loss of your mother. I lost my mom in 2014, I miss her everyday.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: Bruno of NH on May 30, 2019, 11:10:30 PM
Sorry for your loss.
Real men do cry.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: hacknchop on May 30, 2019, 11:29:48 PM
Rhonda and I send our condolences.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: barbender on May 30, 2019, 11:53:18 PM
I'd question a man being "real" if he didn't cry at his mother's passing! My condolences, olcowhand- death is a rotten thing, even after a full life has been lived. But I celebrate with you the full life she lived, and pray for the void that she left.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: Bricklayer51 on May 31, 2019, 07:42:44 AM
Sorry for your loss prayers from hl
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: Tom King on May 31, 2019, 07:59:43 AM
Sorry for your loss, but it doesn't get better than a Parent leaving before a child, and especially being one of the lucky ones who gets to live a long, full life.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: Ed_K on May 31, 2019, 09:05:28 AM
 Sorry for your loss, can't say anything else.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: samandothers on May 31, 2019, 10:20:04 AM
I am sorry for your loss.  Loosing one's mother is not easy.  She knew your feelings.  She is in a far more comfortable place. You will remember her and the experiences you had and still shed tears for she was a wonderful lady.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: WV Sawmiller on May 31, 2019, 01:52:28 PM
OCH,

    I am sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing - I always heard troubles shared are halved and joys shared are doubled. I hope you and your family and friends can be together during this time and enjoy each others company and share the good times you had with your mom. I bet that is what she would want.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: Cartwright on May 31, 2019, 02:14:20 PM
I can't put in words how deeply sorry I and my family are for your loss. I lost my mother back in '94 and miss her everyday. The guidance and unconditional love will never be replaced. 
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: Jeff on May 31, 2019, 08:53:21 PM
Thinking of you here at the Brokaw house. I lost my mom years ago, but Tammy's mom is still doing pretty good. I cant imagine not having her. Praying for you.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: gspren on May 31, 2019, 09:45:58 PM
Condolences, I just lost my Mom 4 months ago under very similar circumstances and yes us old dudes can and should still shed tears. 
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: goose63 on June 01, 2019, 06:46:22 AM
Sorry to hear this remember the all the good times you had with your mom mine left this world 15 years agao  at 96 years old.

And yes men do cry  
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: Sixacresand on June 01, 2019, 07:32:32 AM
Praying for you and your family.
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: olcowhand on June 01, 2019, 11:14:10 AM
FF Family,
Thanks so much for the Kind thoughts, words and Prayers (very powerful stuff...) in response to my post. Funeral is Monday, and I'm looking forward to sharing memories with many people that I probably haven't seen in a while; This includes family...
I have to pass along something that happened this week that made me really dwell on what a blessing Mothers are.
One of my oldest (and my best) friends texted me back after I told him of my mom's passing. We have the kind of relationship that pretty much allows for any kind of communication, so he took my text as if I was standing there telling him about it. He said in his text, after calling me the brother that we are- how sorry he is to hear about it, and to let him know if there's anything he can do;
and then he said: "I know what it's like to lose your mom, and it hurts."
I was suddenly cast back to when he told me that his mom had died- standing there trying to be strong, with tears in his eyes. I didn't know what to say. I couldn't help him. We were new friends and I was (and still am) a couple years older. That was close to 50 years ago, and now I think I understand....
God bless you all,
Steve
Title: Re: Lost my Mom yesterday
Post by: DPatton on June 01, 2019, 12:43:26 PM
OCH,

Sorry to hear of your loss. A parent always hold a special place in ones life. Especially when one lives most of a lifetime with the love, protection, discipline, teaching, and wisdom that has been pass along.
 Sadly you will never be able to replace your mother, but I hope you are able to find great comfort and joy that you were able to spend such a good portion of time with her. Hang in there brother and take a moment every day to remember something special about her or something you learned from her and pass it along every chance you get.