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Offline dgdrls

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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #20 on: December 21, 2018, 09:20:30 AM »
So very sorry,  my sincere condolences with thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #21 on: December 21, 2018, 09:35:27 AM »
You have my sincere condolences.  

I had an employee that had her 21 year old son pass.  She was greatly comforted by a group called 'Compassionate Friends.'   Here is a link to their website which has a chapter locator so if you'd like, you could find local meetings.  

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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #22 on: December 21, 2018, 09:55:12 AM »
So sorry to hear of your loss.

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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #23 on: December 21, 2018, 10:05:43 AM »
My deepest sympathy. I can't imagine. Dennis
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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #24 on: December 21, 2018, 10:08:19 AM »
I don't have anything to offer but my condolences. A guy I know from one of our clients used to go all out for halloween. He'd plan it all in the preceding months, then take off work a couple days to put it together with his kids. It was his favorite thing in the world. I got out of the business for a few years, but came back, and when halloween was approaching, I asked him what he had planned. Nothing. Turns out his son died in a car wreck during the period I was away. It was very sad and uncomfortable that I had asked. He offered me his decorations, but I declined.

Not sure what the point is. I suppose if a point is to be derived, it's that things will get better after awhile, but will never be the same. The only thing to do is keep on keeping on, and I hope you find the strength to do so.

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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #25 on: December 21, 2018, 10:21:13 AM »
As stated by others, there are no words to share that express the emotion, the sorrow, the grief. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #26 on: December 21, 2018, 11:01:54 AM »
Sorry for you.  My best friend died recently  and it sure took me down  and that is nothing compared to what you are experiencing.
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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #27 on: December 21, 2018, 11:02:59 AM »
Praying for you and your family.  

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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #28 on: December 21, 2018, 11:47:24 AM »
That is particularly tough this time of year, I cannot imagine a greater pain. Know that we are here for you and don't be afraid to drop in and talk, this support here was wonderful when I lost my wife.
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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #29 on: December 21, 2018, 11:54:39 AM »
 Doug, I have no magic words to soothe your pain but I think grieving is healing.  Not something you can get over but be able to deal with.  

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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #30 on: December 21, 2018, 01:30:37 PM »
Praying for you and your family.
My brother lost his only child a son .
He was only 23 and he had worked with me off and on.
I know what you are going through.
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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #31 on: December 21, 2018, 02:43:09 PM »
I have two precious adult daughters, I can't imagine the pain or struggle.

My wife included the poem below in the funeral for my mother-in-law who passed recently.  I'm pretty sure my daughters are enough like their mother and grandmother that they would not just want me to go on but would expect me to go on with life if I lose one of them.

Maybe this might help. God's comfort and peace be with you.



 
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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #32 on: December 21, 2018, 03:44:48 PM »
Will be prayerful of you and your family. Words will not sooth only God's touch can bring peace and the assurance of eternity. This will be my prayer for you.

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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #33 on: December 21, 2018, 04:43:44 PM »
Ive lost parents, siblings, best friends, but i can not imagine the heartache of losing a child. Just know that the forum and its membership is here to help hold you up when you need us.
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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #34 on: December 21, 2018, 05:40:18 PM »
Doug

I am so sorry to hear this.


 My daughters birthday was yesterday I lost Mandy 12 years agao on Nvember 8 the day befor deer hunting season the last thing she said was see you in the morning dad we are going to get that buck I didn't hunt that year.
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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #35 on: December 21, 2018, 08:02:52 PM »
You will be in my prayers tonight.
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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #36 on: December 22, 2018, 01:50:57 AM »
I lost my 42 year old son a year ago this week and I can tell you there is no magic formula on how to get thru this difficult time. For me, I've had to be strong for my wife to lean on thru this difficult time. I've learned to just take one step forward at a time and just keep looking forward. Remember the good times you've had with your daughter and not dwell on the tragedy of the loss. Easy to say and write but it's the best remedy for your grief.
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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #37 on: December 22, 2018, 03:59:18 AM »
This hurts to read about your loss...
Hearts to you Doug..
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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #38 on: December 23, 2018, 10:17:10 PM »
You still hangin in there Doug?  
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Re: Dealing with death of my child
« Reply #39 on: December 24, 2018, 12:20:33 AM »
Doug, The pain of this loss must be so incredible. I wish there was something, anything I could do to ease the suffering, and I know others here feel the same. Feel free to reach out anytime. Your feelings are welcome. 
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