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Author Topic: Don't you love people you haven't seen in years stopping buy to borrow money?  (Read 5002 times)

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I'm sitting in front of the tube wearing my Sundays best (skivies), wife still asleep and someone knocks at the door.

I see a woman that we met approx 3 years ago and perhaps visited a total of 8 times. She borrowed 60 bucks from the wife about 2 years ago and disappeared.

I open the door, she says "my dad died can I talk to miss moose?", I was like , "erm sorry your dad died, let me get moose because I don't have an empathy gene".

I go wake up moose, and tell her who it was and not to give her many money.

Anyway, she sat and chatted with the wife for at least 2 hours, I even started feeling bad because I know she didn't ask for cash. After she left I asked if the woman wanted money and Moose said she finally asked right before she left.

The story is basically her dad died in TX and needs travel money, she works or worked at a grocery but fell and hurt her back (was walking pretty good on Sunday). She has money to smoke 2 cartons of cigs each week but yet she can't come up with the cash to go to her dads funeral. Which she hasn't seen for 10 years or talked too btw.

Am I being too harsh? or should I have just said "Sorry your not getting any money" and saved everyone 2 hours of their time?
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Don't 'cha hate that ??? ??? ???

I have relatives like that...I guess that's why I never go to family stuff.

I also have customers who have filed bankruptcy on me and then a month or two later they are sitting at my parts counter wanting a credit app to open a new account because they have started a new business :o :o :o >:( >:( >:(
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Don't you just wonder what wanders around in people's mind sometime? Being eternally curious, I would have first sat her down and said - Now - about that money you borrowed last time - are you coming back to pay it?

It would probably shorten the conversation a tad bit...  ::)

So, how did I end up here anyway?

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A lot of times I say "My name does not include the word bank" or "My busininess is not a lending institution".

What would you say if a person that you know came up to you and said " I am broke and I need x amount of dollars because....  I will make an attempt to repay you in the future, but knowing me I doubt if I will ever have enough money to do this.  I am asking for charity."

Would this make a difference?
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Its a tough situation with family but this appears to be for the most part a stranger.

IF I was going to help her out the first thing I would do is get the name of the Funeral Home and contact them to confirm the story. 

If it is true, the MOST I would do would be to purchase an airline ticket to go to the funeral and then I would TAKE her to the airport to make sure she got on the airplane. 

With that being said, I would bet her father did not die (hope he didnt) and she knows she found a soft heart before and maybe she can do it again for more money. 

Jims tractor Mechanic STILL has not payed him back yet we see this guy in the local gas station during lunch time buying lottery tickets on a regular basis.  Some folks just dont know what there doing to themselves.  This guys tractor business has all but dried up becuase of the way he treated Jim. 

Chances are the Gal asking form money has dried up all her other hand out points so now she comes to basically a stranger and hopes you havent heard from any of the others she still owes.


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Don't stop here to borrow money, you would run out of it about 60' up the road  :D :D
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I learned the hard way about lending to friends, he borrowed to buy a car since he had just written his off.  Well, I heard he was buying a CD player for it and such when he hadn't paid me back yet...

He phoned my one time to stop by and pick up the money so I did a few days later and he says oh well I don't have it now, you should have stopped in when I called.  Where did it go? He bought some new shirts.

Nice guy though, went to neo-natal classes with him even, just can't loan him money!

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Never had that problem as I have less money then most people I know. :D Actually, if we actually have loaned money to anyone I wouldn't know about it as Tammy is the person that would be approached or have the final say. For me it would have to be a close friend or a family member that has no record with me, or anyone I know.

I have been approached by a couple of very casual members of the forum for a loan. They were casual enough that they apparently didn't understand that the Forestry Forum is not some big dot com that they envisioned and that it is actually ran by an old broken down mill rat and his lovely wife.  :)
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 Seems to me that as soon as one has any toys in the yard , someone figures out that there is money there . Well there is ....  its all tight up in the toys .  :o None to go around for hand outs .
 
   Same thing with a pile of lumber ... Had some come over here and want to borrow a few peices of wood ...  ::)
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One of my In-Laws got hurt at work a while back (was total stupidity on his part that it even happened), and during the time he was off from work *I* payed his phone bill, power bill, and bought them groceries for several months. I expected nothing in return as It was just something I felt a family member should do. At the time, I was making good money and it wasnt a financial strain on me to do it.

That was about 15 years ago....

A couple of years went by, and one of my immediate family members got sick and had to spend some time in the hospital trying to figure out what was wrong with them (mystery disease). I get a call from the In-Law accusing me of mis-treating *MY* family member, accusing me of every evil deed one can imagine, and threatening to kill me on sight if they ever see me again.

When they find out what the illness was, and realize that *I* had nothing to do with it, they wanted to come and appologise.....I accepted the appology, but have kept my distance ever since.

I never have even got a "thank you" from them, or even an acknolegement that I payed their bills and kept them alive for several months. They have plenty of money NOW to buy big boy toys though.
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Don't lend money.....it causes AMNESIA ::)
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> I am broke and ..  I am asking for charity."
> Would this make a difference?

Yes, they would probably get more then if they asked the other way because I could relate to that.

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Seems to me that as soon as one has any toys in the yard , someone figures out that there is money there . Well there is ....  its all tight up in the toys .  :o None to go around for hand outs .


The bank ownes the toys in my yard  :'(
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I'm in the same boat as Jeff, nobody asks to borrow money from me 'cause if they know me good enough to ask something like that. They know me good enough to know I don't have any. :D
They do come by and borrow "stuff" though, I ain't stingy and loan my stuff out. But I have a few guys crossed off the list. My favorite is a dude (who is really good people, just has a habit of not returning stuff).
 He wanted to borrow my skidsteer, I said sure just fill it up with fuel if you use it all. We can't buy deisel in town, you have to drive 7 miles to get it. "Sure let me borrow you gas can, and I'll fill it up" He only used the skidsteer for 15 minutes to lift an engine out of the bed of his truck and brought it right back. Well he drove around the rest of the day with my can in the bed, until it blew out. He lost my DanG can!
 He needed a piece of rope to pull the top over on a little maple tree he was cutting to get it away from his moms house. "I'll bring it back in 30 minutes" I had a 100' rope, still new in the bag...never saw it again.
 The one that got him crossed off my list was my "water ears" for starting an outboard boat motor on a garden hose. He came by 2 springs ago "Hey you got a couple sets of water ears don't you, I need to borrow one for a few minutes, I want to check my boat before I go to the lake"... I was down to one set. He has the NERVE to come around this spring "Hey you got a couple sets of water ears don't you" I told him no I had one- he had one and he wasn't getting the one I had or anything else.
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Holy cow Jeff - I thought you were like Donald Trump.

Well, so much for my business plan - I was figuring on hitting up up as an investor...  ::)
So, how did I end up here anyway?

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If you lend someone $60 and never see them again.. it was probably money well spent  ;) :D

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If you lend someone $60 and never see them again.. it was probably money well spent  ;) :D

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That's what my uncle always says. There was a couple native folks that kept barrowing money until the weekly check came in. They started coming because my uncle looked after their grand mother, who stopped lending them money becuase she was on to them. The last time they barrowed they never came back to pay it. Good riddence. Their grandmother is dead now and her only living son comes up from CT once in awhile to check on the place and takes my uncle out to dinner on accassion.
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Many years ago I went to Moline, Il to work in John Deere.  I wasn't ready to join the family farm.  I had a friend at work who needed $50., I gave it to him because payday was 2 days away.  Would you believe he used the money to buy a bus ticket. :D :D ;D

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I told my son and my daughter that if they ever need to borrow money from me for a good reason, I'll try to be there to help them. BUT.....don't come and ask for more until they've paid me back the money they initially borrowed.  It has worked very well and my children have always made sure they pay back any money they borrow from me.  So if that woman came to my house and asked to borrow money, I'd have told her that I can't loan her any money until she pays back what she already owes.  Case closed. :)
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