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Title: Terribly Sad Day
Post by: JV on May 25, 2012, 09:47:02 PM
This morning I had to do the most painful, gut-wrenching thing I have ever done.  We buried the love of my life and high school sweetheart of 50 years who was also my wife of 46 years.  She supported me in all my projects including the new shop.  She had some medical problems but nothing to indicate this.  I was holding her while she was having a problem breathing, something I had done before with no problem.  Things drastically went critical and CPR had no effect.    Watching someone you dearly love slip away and nothing you are doing works is the most agonizing, heartbreaking, empty feeling you can ever imagine.  It will take a long time for the tears and grief to subside even minutely but I have the support of family and friends.  She never met a stranger and had a myriad of friends.  She had made reservations at a B&B to stay in while we attended the hog roast this year.  She was looking forward to it.  I have many good memories to sustain me.  Thanks for letting me talk it out, it offers some relief.
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Post by: POSTON WIDEHEAD on May 25, 2012, 09:55:42 PM
When I went through a bad time, you guys prayed for me and others.Your prayers worked. And now I am praying for you and your family.
Like I have said before, you have never lost someone if you know where they are.
God is with you John.







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Post by: fishpharmer on May 25, 2012, 09:56:10 PM
JV, nothing I can say will ease your pain.  My heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. 
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Post by: WDH on May 25, 2012, 09:59:01 PM
Oh No!  This is such sad news.  I really enjoyed talking with her at the Pig Roast.  I cannot begin to express how sorry I am to hear this.
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Post by: Jeff on May 25, 2012, 10:01:24 PM
JV, I know there is nothing I can say to lesson your grief, but Tammy and I always looked forward to having you and your wife at our home. We missed you last year. I am so sorry to hear this.
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Post by: Bogue Chitto on May 25, 2012, 10:09:20 PM
We pray for you JV.    Sorry for your great loss.  God will take care of her. 
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Post by: bama20a on May 25, 2012, 10:16:52 PM
Very sorry to hear of your lost,Prays will be sent from this family. Mark,,,
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Post by: Chuck White on May 25, 2012, 10:21:12 PM
John; Please know that we are praying and thinking of you and your family in your time of sorrow.

God will care for her now!
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Post by: Clam77 on May 25, 2012, 10:30:28 PM
Very sorry for your loss John.  Many prayers to you and your family.   
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Post by: beenthere on May 25, 2012, 10:45:19 PM
News as this makes me sad, and our prayers for you will be immediate. Thank you for letting us know, as difficult as that has to be.
Will be thinking of you.
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Post by: Dan_Shade on May 25, 2012, 11:16:34 PM
So sorry to hear this, John. 
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Post by: mrcaptainbob on May 25, 2012, 11:28:59 PM
So sorry to hear of your loss, John. Prayers and condolences to you and your family....
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Post by: Bill Gaiche on May 25, 2012, 11:35:36 PM
Oh man what a sad day. I pray that you will find relief from sorrow and pain in all the good things that she brought to you. bg
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Post by: DanG on May 25, 2012, 11:38:28 PM
My screen suddenly turned very blurry when I read that, John.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Post by: sawguy21 on May 25, 2012, 11:46:33 PM
John, words do not adequately express my sadness. My thoughts are with you.
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Post by: barbender on May 26, 2012, 12:00:35 AM
So, so sorry to hear of your loss. That's all I can really say, and that you will be in my prayers.
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Post by: Roxie on May 26, 2012, 05:25:52 AM
There are no words...you have my deepest sympathy. 
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Post by: thecfarm on May 26, 2012, 06:04:09 AM
I'm so sorry to hear of such bad news. We are all here for you.
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Post by: Howdy on May 26, 2012, 06:46:58 AM
I am touched by your words and am feeling a deep sadness for you even though we have never met.  Nothing can ease the pain yet I thank you for sharing.   I will keep you in my thought and prayers. 
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Post by: ellmoe on May 26, 2012, 06:47:56 AM
John, I am extremely sorry for your loss. Words are inadequate.

Mark
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Post by: Autocar on May 26, 2012, 07:46:10 AM
So sorry to hear about your wife passing our prayers will be with you in the days to come
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Post by: tcsmpsi on May 26, 2012, 07:52:17 AM
JV....
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Post by: JV on May 26, 2012, 07:53:52 AM
Thank you all for your kind comments and prayers.  Each morning is a challenge, but I try to think of one happy moment with her and it helps.  She was an avid read of the Forum and would ask me if I had read this or that post.  She enjoyed going to forestry seminars and just being in the woods.

A young lady from Germany moved here and started a small bakery in her home making delicious breads and pastries.  My wife became friends with her quickly and when she talked  of opening a shop downtown, my wife supported her.  Connie posted comments on Facebook about my wife Jane being her biggest cheerleader.  I stopped at the shop and she gave me a tearful hug and commented how special my wife was to her.  Moments like this sustain me.  Again, thank you all.
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Post by: Texas Ranger on May 26, 2012, 07:57:31 AM
Nothing I can say, prayers for you.
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Post by: Buck on May 26, 2012, 08:00:56 AM
Prayers of comfort for you JV.
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Post by: okmulch on May 26, 2012, 08:01:51 AM
JV, I am sorry for your loss. Many thoughts and prayers be with you.
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Post by: Mooseherder on May 26, 2012, 08:16:01 AM
We are very sorry to hear about this John.
Our thoughts are with you.
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Post by: Magicman on May 26, 2012, 08:19:03 AM
John, even though we never got to meet, my prayers and condolences are with you.  I can not even begin to imagine the depth of your loss. 
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Post by: Norm on May 26, 2012, 08:29:46 AM
John I'm so sorry to hear of this, I'm at a loss for words.
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Post by: Raider Bill on May 26, 2012, 08:50:16 AM
Sorry for your loss John.
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Post by: chet on May 26, 2012, 09:09:35 AM
Very sad news, Judy and I send our thoughts 
and prayers.
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Post by: Corley5 on May 26, 2012, 09:10:46 AM
Very sorry John  :(  We'll have you in thoughts
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Post by: PC-Urban-Sawyer on May 26, 2012, 09:34:53 AM
John,

Sorry to hear of your terrible loss. My prayers for you and your family in this dark moment in your lives.

Herb
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Post by: Woodchuck53 on May 26, 2012, 09:49:17 AM
Morning John, am so sorry to here you have lost your partner in life. I have experienced loss and there are no words at this time. We will think of you and yours and wish you the best in these times. Chuck
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Post by: Nomad on May 26, 2012, 10:01:37 AM
     So terribly sad for your loss.  Like all others here, my thoughts are with you and your family.  Your wife is in a better place now; the best you can do is think of that and remember the happy times.
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Post by: Den Socling on May 26, 2012, 10:15:28 AM
John, I never met you or your wife but that doesn't mean that I'm not deeply saddened by this terrible news. My thoughts are with you. I hope you can bear your sadness.
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Post by: Don K on May 26, 2012, 10:22:41 AM
I am sorry for your loss. Prayers for you.

Don
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Post by: Burlkraft on May 26, 2012, 10:24:50 AM
Our condolences go out to you and your family John.

I can't even imagine what you are going through.

Just know that we are here for you and don't be afraid to ask us for anything.
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Post by: sandhills on May 26, 2012, 01:12:56 PM
I'm very sorry to hear this, and like everyone else has said, there are no words.  Our thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
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Post by: Meadows Miller on May 26, 2012, 01:58:35 PM

I am sorry to hear of your loss and My condolences go out to you and you family  :( just think of the good times and she will always be with you Mate .

best regards Chris
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Post by: Patty on May 26, 2012, 04:06:31 PM
Oh this is so terribly sad. My heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. May she rest in peace.  God will care for her now...
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Post by: clww on May 26, 2012, 04:18:51 PM
I am also shocked and saddened at your loss. She is with God and His Son in a much better place now. We will all meet again when His time is right. I will say a prayer for you, your family, and all those left here behind.
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Post by: WildDog on May 26, 2012, 05:25:53 PM
Take care on the road ahead JV, 50yrs of nice memories will help you pave the way.

Rob
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Post by: WH_Conley on May 26, 2012, 05:53:31 PM
My thoughts go with you.
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Post by: sawman on May 27, 2012, 06:52:04 AM
Our thoughts and prayers are with you also
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Post by: Qweaver on May 27, 2012, 07:12:27 AM
My heart goes out to you John.

Quinton
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Post by: bugdust on May 27, 2012, 10:43:52 PM
John,
This is such a terrible loss. I too married my high school sweetheart 41 years ago and I can't imagine your grief. One thing for sure is you don't have to bear this sorrow alone, for God's grace will be sufficient. You will continue to be in my prayers my friend.
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Post by: fat olde elf on May 27, 2012, 11:27:49 PM
Very sorry.....She and I had a long chat at the pig roast including a review of Peru history. One of her main concerns was your health. Say your prayers.
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Post by: customsawyer on May 28, 2012, 11:23:16 AM
So sorry to hear this.
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Post by: slider on May 28, 2012, 12:26:10 PM
vick and I are very sorry for your loss john .we have both been through what you are trying to cope with .I must say you have many friends praying for you and your family .I know it must help
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Post by: OneWithWood on May 28, 2012, 01:25:41 PM
JV,
Linnea and I are deeply saddened by this news.  We always looked forward to seeing the two of you and enjoyed our many chats. 
Please know you and your family will be in our thoughts. 
Robert
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Post by: Warbird on May 28, 2012, 03:33:58 PM
*hug*  I am praying for you. 
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Post by: JV on May 28, 2012, 06:34:30 PM
Again, thank all of you for your kindness and thoughts and prayers.  We have met several of you over the years and consider members of the forum like family.  If at all possible, I want to make the pig roast this year since we had to miss last year.  Thank you.
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Post by: John_Haylow on May 28, 2012, 07:17:18 PM
Very sorry to read this JV. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Take care,
John
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Post by: rockman on May 28, 2012, 07:50:39 PM
So very sorry to hear of your loss, We will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.

Kevin
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Post by: Ron Scott on May 28, 2012, 08:27:35 PM
Very sad. We are very sorry to hear of your loss and offer our sincere sympathy.
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Post by: Ernie on May 28, 2012, 09:02:56 PM
What terrible news.  I really don't know what to say except that you are both in our prayers.
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Post by: nas on May 28, 2012, 09:43:55 PM
our condolences John.  Sorry for your loss

Nick
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Post by: OneWithWood on May 29, 2012, 11:53:36 AM
JV,
We look forward to seeing you at the pig roast. 
Robert and Linnea
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Post by: redbeard on May 29, 2012, 12:10:58 PM
Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Post by: Woodhauler on May 29, 2012, 05:47:20 PM
Sorry for your loss! smiley_angel02_wings
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Post by: wood monger on May 29, 2012, 07:58:49 PM
I am very sorry to hear of your terrible loss, I can't imagine. I will be praying for you and the family.
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Post by: DoubleD on May 31, 2012, 02:32:37 PM
I am sorry to hear about your loss, please accept my condolences
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Post by: thecfarm on May 31, 2012, 09:28:13 PM
JV,I've been checking this thread everyday to see all of the support from the FF. I've been thinking of you.
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Post by: JV on June 01, 2012, 10:09:17 AM
I have had the support of familly, friends, and neighbors otherwise I simply couldn't function.  The support I have received from the Forum is truly heartwarming.  All of you are like an extended family for which I am thankful.  Distance prevents me from thanking each of you in person but the miles separating us seems meaningless in spirit.  I hope to see old friends and some new ones at the pig roast this year.  Bless you all.
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Post by: Chris Burchfield on June 01, 2012, 11:50:46 AM
JV, kneemail just went up for you.  I too married my high school sweetheart.  We were married in 1977, we will have 35 years this December.  Deepest sympathy, Chris.
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Post by: WDH on June 01, 2012, 08:27:39 PM
I look forward to seeing you again at the Pig Roast.  I can only imagine what you are going through.  My thoughts are with you.
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Post by: Norm on June 02, 2012, 07:13:56 AM
Mine too JV, hope you're doing well.
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Post by: samandothers on June 02, 2012, 10:34:26 AM
As you and someothers here I married my high school sweetheart.  I am so sorry. Know my prayers are with you.
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Post by: cutterboy on June 02, 2012, 05:38:44 PM
JV, I am so, so sorry. I'm glad you shared this with us and I'm touched by the response of the FF members.
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Post by: pineywoods on June 03, 2012, 02:20:57 PM
JV I am greatly sorrowed by this sad news. There is something special about hi school sweethearts. I married mine 53 years ago.
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Post by: Faron on June 03, 2012, 09:40:55 PM
John, I am so sorry for your loss.