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Offline petefrom bearswamp

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Re: Getting help
« Reply #20 on: March 31, 2018, 09:48:44 AM »
Best of luck.
Lots of folks here pulling for you
It can be done.
My kid brother did it after 2 failed marriages, 3 rehabs and 2 lost jobs.
We thought he was lost.
He is now dry since 1980.
my other brother quit on his own which is  every difficult about 15 yrs ago.
I however am the black sheep being a social drinker, but have managed to limit it so far.
I wouldnt hesitate to seek help If my good wife pointed me in that direction.

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« Reply #21 on: April 01, 2018, 05:28:03 PM »
You can do this I have done it .
The friends I have today are real friends.
My best days in life are the ones I have been sober and loving life.
Take care my friend.
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« Reply #22 on: April 07, 2018, 08:12:31 PM »
you can do it    its hard hard hard i stopped cold turkey after not having a sober breath for 10 years  the only thing that helped me was i never drank at home  it was very hard going to friends house or to hunting camp it took me over a year to stay back at camp the guys where all going to make a rule no drinking while i was there  but i said no I'm the one with the problem no you guys  now i can be around people that drink and it doesn't bother me because i can say no now  8) hope every thing turns out great for you  if you need anything don't be afraid to ask  we are in this together  

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« Reply #23 on: April 15, 2018, 06:18:17 PM »
I figure you have been in treatment for three weeks.  Hope to hear from you soon.
We have a lot of good boys and girls in harms way
lets all support them and their familys.

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« Reply #24 on: April 15, 2018, 06:46:52 PM »
A lot of people pulling for you my friend. Many people are affected by this disease both directly and other. I have a friend who drinks 13 to 15 bottles of wine a week, plus hard stuff. Last week he stubbed his toe, bent over lost his balance, fell and broke his hip. In the hospital waiting for hip surgery he had a stroke. They did surgery on his hip and he is now in rehab for therapy and drying out. Life is not easy, but sure is worth the travel.

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« Reply #25 on: April 25, 2018, 09:03:17 PM »
Thank you everyone, everything you all said is spot on.  I just got done this morning and made it home finally, very happy to be back.  I was there just short of a month, what an eye opener!  Sadly I'm afraid my case is pretty minor compared to a lot of what I saw while I was there, I've never used any drugs so I really got an education on that side of addiction.  The staff and chaplins were all great but more importantly the friendship and support among all the patients along with the local AA club was amazing, it was a real eye opener for me.  I don't know what they gave me in Iowa when I had my seizure but I lost about 3 days there and came back with no desire to drink, no cravings, nothing, but like a broken record I heard my story told time and again by numerous people, a relapse is a relapse.  I met a lot of very nice people, learned a great deal from each one, and tried to really be honest with myself and them.  So now the hard part starts outside of the "safe place" but I know I have terrific support and I'm stubborn enough to do it one day at a time, or hour, or minute.  On a lighter note a blizzard came through the weekend after Easter knocking the power out for about 9 hrs., so you put 40 cold addicts in one dining hall, most of which are going through withdrawls, that really makes for a fun, cold breakfast :)

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« Reply #26 on: April 25, 2018, 10:00:20 PM »
Welcome back, Pat, and thanks for the update!

Glad to hear you're doing well, and you are to be congratulated on your success!

You got through the hard part, now you just continually remind yourself that you don't need it!

Good luck to you, my friend, I'm sure your bride has a good shoulder to lean on when needed!
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« Reply #27 on: April 26, 2018, 06:25:50 AM »
Chuck said all the things I'm thinking better than I can say them. Thanks for letting us know how you're making out!
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« Reply #28 on: April 26, 2018, 07:54:34 AM »
One day at a Time .  Use your strength, knowledge,  and life experiences to get you thru tough times.
We have a lot of good boys and girls in harms way
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« Reply #29 on: April 26, 2018, 08:37:07 AM »
Welcome Home my Friend.
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« Reply #30 on: April 26, 2018, 02:13:27 PM »
Glad to hear from you!!!  Mighty glad!!!   You will do fine.  I am thinking of you.
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« Reply #31 on: April 27, 2018, 04:56:35 AM »
Glad you are home.  :)
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« Reply #32 on: April 27, 2018, 07:55:57 AM »
 Praying you keep it up. You can do it I did 19 yrs sober.
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« Reply #33 on: April 28, 2018, 05:57:57 PM »
Glad to see you back Pat.
Quite the eye opener, wasn't it?
As good as it is to have a lady and family to lean on and talk to, keep in mind that at times it could be easier to talk to a complete stranger that has walked in your shoes. Holler if you need to talk.

One of the bigger things that kept me busy during the winter months after I quit was this site. I'd quit in august, bought my first mill about Christmas time and then found this site and I'm pretty sure I put in some serious hours reading through things. I say this because along with there being a bunch of us that have been there, this site is a great distraction from the everyday world and something we understand and can be a part of that doesn't require a drink.

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« Reply #34 on: April 28, 2018, 09:55:10 PM »
With every new day, it brings new life; new beginnings; yesterday is over.  The future for any of us is only what we individually make for ourselves; make no mistake, life is about the fight.

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« Reply #35 on: April 28, 2018, 11:59:17 PM »
One thing I heard there that I really liked (and will probably get the wording wrong) was "yesterday is the past, forget it, tomorrow is the future, you have no control over it, today is a gift, that's why it's called the present".  That really can pertain to a lot of situations I guess.  Thanks again for all the kind words everyone.

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« Reply #36 on: April 29, 2018, 07:00:35 AM »
Good to hear .
We have a lot of good boys and girls in harms way
lets all support them and their familys.

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« Reply #37 on: May 04, 2018, 07:25:08 PM »
Hang in there. Just avoid anyone that encourages you to drink. That's one problem I had. Quit twice and was doing good till I was with this person. She encouraged me to drink and I did. 
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« Reply #38 on: May 04, 2018, 08:49:36 PM »
hope everything is going good for you and the family keep your nose to the grid stone i know its been said before but if you need someone to complain to call don't matter what time of day or night  call   beat of luck to you 

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« Reply #39 on: May 05, 2018, 12:49:29 AM »
Going good, 37 days so far and no complaints here other I have had a few dreams I relapsed, those stink.  It's weird how real they can seem and how bad you feel when you wake up  ::).


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